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Ok, you have Raspbian image written to your microSD card.

It will be lot easier to configure if you re-image your microSD card with Piaware. To re-image with Piaware image, please see this guide (dont perform steps 5 & 6 of this guide if you are outside USA or if you are in USA, but you dont want UAT978)

Note: To burn piaware image to your microSD card, download and install “Balena Etcher” on your Windows or Mac computer.

https://www.balena.io/etcher/

Howto : Piaware SD card image 3.8.0 Quickstart Guide